It’s not often
that we see or read things about how to make a man feel loved and special in a
relationship.
I always
encourage men to treat the women in the life better, to be romantic, genuine,
and all of that fun stuff. But the truth is, it goes both ways. Any successful
relationship requires consistent effort from both teammates.
(Teamwork makes the dream work, right?)
To help give you
some ideas of how to do your part, here are 10 things you can do to make the
guy in your life feel special and loved. Trust me, he will be very
appreciative:
#1. Compliment
him.
This may
surprise a lot of women, but it’s rare for a man to receive genuine
compliments. We are often on the giving end of compliments. So, by
acknowledging your guy with genuine adoration, it will make him feel
appreciated.
#2. Ask him for
his advice.
Stereotypically,
when a woman tells a man about her problems, she isn’t necessarily looking for
a solution. She wants a listener. However, a man’s instinct is to try to
provide a solution. So go ahead and specifically ask him for his advice. It
makes him feel useful, wanted and even needed. It is going to allow him to flex
his problem-solving muscles and make him feel like he’s contributing to your
life.
#3. Wear that
outfit you know he loves.
I am sure you’ve
heard it before: Men are visual creatures. But there’s more to it than just
looking good. If a man sees you in something that you know he loves, he will
recognize that you are putting in an effort to look good for him specifically.
#4. Give him
your undivided attention.
Yes, women
multitask better than men do. So while you may be able to check your email and
still give him your attention, it shows your lack of intention. Show him that
he’s got your full and complete attention.
#5. Make him
feel comfortable venting to you.
Men are often
told that we should be the strong ones, but this is incorrectly interpreted as
"men should be unemotional." I fully believe that showing emotion
requires more strength than holding it in, but societal constructors often tell
us otherwise.
This means that
there are very few safe places for men to open up and vent about what’s
bothering them, regardless of how badly they want to. If you provide a safe
place for your man to vent, it will be a welcome gesture of love and affection.
#6. Be
affectionate with him.
As simple as
this one is, it is often overlooked. Small things like hand-holding, walking
arm-in-arm, or resting your head on his shoulder can make him feel like he’s
protecting you, even if you don’t need his protection. Protecting you is often
a man’s way of showing you his love.
#7. Show him
he's a priority.
We all have busy
lives with friends, family, work and hobbies, but make sure you include him
where you can. Time is the most valuable asset any of us have, because we can’t
get it back after we spend it. It’s also the most important gift we can give to
someone.
#8. Pick up the
tab.
I believe a man
should always pay for dates. Not necessarily just the first date, but also
ongoing. However, if you occasionally slip your card to the waiter without him
noticing, he’s not going to hate it. It will show him that you appreciate the
things he does for you and that you’re willing to take care of him, too.
#9. Give him
long hugs.
Men often
communicate physically, whether it’s through body language or putting his arm
around you. It’s a language that he instinctively understands. Women can send
their guy a very important message of love by being physically close. Holding
on to him just a little longer and hugging him just a little tighter will show
him the affection that he desires.
#10. If you
appreciate what he does for you, tell him.
Romance and
relationships are a two-way street. A good man will give to you without asking
for anything in return, but that doesn’t mean you should do nothing. Tell your
man that you cherish having him in your life.
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